But they did get rid of the rodents., If anything ever represented Georges lifelong tug-of-war between embracing his family and rebelling against it, it was this house in Mountain Lake. The O'Neill family mourns the passing of their beloved Abby Milton O'Neill on May 3, 2017. My heart went out to her, says Hare, who is 66 and was known in the household as Miss Shirley. Use Escape keyboard button or the Close button to close the carousel. Abigail Aldrich Rockefeller (November 9, 1903 May 27, 1976) was an American philanthropist and the daughter of American financier John D. Rockefeller Jr. and a granddaughter of Standard Oil co-founder John D. Rockefeller. Often when she shopped, one of the Lost Classics Girlswho held the credit cards and signed the sales slipswould escort her. This flower has been reported and will not be visible while under review. Typically, ambassadors have wives, Amy explains, who fulfill the role of hostess. A month later, Amy hit rock bottom. Shes crazy! As for the nose job, Acreman says, I paid him back.. An old Spanish-style house that rented for $1,100 a month and hadnt been lived in for years, it lacked modern kitchen appliances and air-conditioning. I have, on many occasions, invoked her name as one that people should look to as an exemplary board member. A housekeeper says she would be instructed to start the waffles, and then the girls would sit with George around the table and hed entertain them with stories. Theyd hang on his every word. We couldnt believe where she was living, says one of Amys friends from Shipley. She is survived by her husband of 67 years, George D. O'Neill of Oyster Bay, New York and their six children: George D. O'Neill, Jr. (Erica) of Lake Wales, FL; Abby O. Caulkins (Charles) of Chappaqua, NY; David M. O'Neill (Connie) of Greenwood Village, CO; Catharine O. Broderick (Kevin) of Grosse Pointe Farms, MI; Wendy H. O'Neill (David Rayner) of Sarasota, FL and Peter M. O'Neill (Katie) of New York, NY. While Abby is considered imperious by many, she haduntil the afternoon Amy showed up pleading for her helpa staunch defender in her daughter-in-law, who felt she always tried to be kind, and who is still grateful for the fact that, when she and George adopted Paul Henry, Georges parents treated him as their own flesh and blood., After Amy was hospitalized, Abby, according to Amys testimony, instructed her son to lose the baby-sitter. Exhibits A and B have been the suicide of Amys father 26 years ago and the illness of her older brother, a star student and squash champion who, in his sophomore year at Harvard, in the 1980s, was diagnosed with schizophrenia. Please check your email and click on the link to activate your account. The staff and board of PCHP are so honored to have worked with her and will miss her very much. Serving as its president, in 1971 she established Greenacre Park, a small vest-pocket park and waterfall on 51st Street in Manhattan, to provide New Yorkers some moments of serenity in this busy world. Her brother Laurance served as a trustee of the Foundation and helped to create the park. L. I. Your Scrapbook is currently empty. They did, but they were beautiful, says Amy. It was so very romantic. In Pietrasanta, George carved marble hearts in honor of his new bride. ABBY O'NEILL OBITUARY O'NEILL--Abby. The Lost Classics Girls were also in charge of picking up the mail from the post-office box in town. There, Amy says, George toyed with the idea of becoming a cowboy. He followed her up in a rage, she says. He beat in the door and came in screaming at me, You mother-fucking bitch, dont you ever lock me out of our bedroom. He told me that I was seeing things, that I was crazy like my brother., Nothing could have hurt her more, Amy says. He worked tirelessly for the right-wing Buchanan, as well as for Phyllis Schlafly, the pro-life zealot famous for spearheading the defeat of the Equal Rights Amendment. And she had yet to drop all the weight when she got pregnant with the next child. Sorry! GREAT NEWS! And this would take place on the Saturday night before [church]. Amy with her notebook became a figure of fun for the Lost Classics Girls, and Wafflerama soon evolved into a trash-Amy session, during which the girls would refer to her as the M.F.B. He employed a personal laundressthe wife of the assistant pastor at the First Assembly of God churchto wash his clothes so that they wouldnt be mixed with the dirty laundry of his wife and children. He even agreed to counseling. Much of what we found was inappropriate, badly written and, of course, politically correct to the hilt. He enclosed a photograph of the ONeills: From our family to your family.. He wanted to make [Jennifer] our sexual play toy, Amy testified. She was a member of the Board of Trustees of the Rockefeller Brothers Fund, created in 1940 by her brothers. Privacy Policy We have set your language to Abby Rockefeller Milton Dining With Her New Husband Irving H. Pardee (Original Caption) Dr. Irving Hotchkiss Pardee and his bride, the former Mrs. Abby Rockefeller Milton, the only daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John D. Rockefeller Jr., are shown as they dined in the Wedgewood room of the Waldorf Astoria just before they left for a honeymoon in Bermuda. He told us that he wanted to get back together with Amy and the only way he could is if we were fired, says one of them. During one dinner party, a guest recalls, George was outraged to find that the husband of one of the housekeepers had parked his car in the driveway, so he deliberately sideswiped it, then told the woman her husband would have to pay for the damages., The Lost Classics Girls, however, could do no wrong. He was a victim of an air gun pellet discharged from a rifle of. He was still here, but the person I knew was gone. One date with George that she remembers was the time he drove her and Faith to Cambridge in the middle of the night in response to yet another call from the university. And Amy was in a dither because she couldnt handle the pressure. Before their divorce in 1943, they had two daughters:[2], In 1946, she began her second marriage, to Dr. Irving H. Pardee (18921949), a neurologist and brother of cardiologist Harold E. B. Youd better tell Faith, his wife advised. It was her idea.. Her new friends here say that they had no idea she was married to a Rockefeller until a newspaper article about the case appeared. Amys girlfriends say that she stopped getting their phone messages, so they resorted to writing her letters, but they believe she didnt get those either. Strange as it seems, the situation has come to this: Amys mother, the gung-ho Reaganite who made a career of infuriating feministsfrom the days when she handed out pot holders during her campaigns for the Pennsylvania state legislature to the time she advised Reagan that the gender gap was overblownis now championing the rights of her daughter against the oppressive Rockefeller empire. Amy ONeill claims to have been so humiliated and embarrassed by her husbands behavior in the marriage, and so worried about protecting his reputation and hers (and my mothers), that she says she didnt tell even close friends what was happening in her home. George was very skilled with computers. There are no volunteers for this cemetery. What kind of arrangement is appropriate, where should you send it, and when should you send an alternative? The first signs of trouble appeared when the couple got what they had wanted mostkids, and lots of them. Political friends of Georges say his time with the Buchanan camp ended badly. Georges argument to the court that he is cash poor may be accurate for now, for his wealth is still controlled by the trustees. Still, he remained devoted to Buchanan, taking Amy and Faith to the convention in Houston, where Buchanan made his infamous Christian-family-values speech, a screed that was widely viewed as, if not downright racist, at least hate-filled. E-mail: archive@rockarch.org. George ONeill called to invite the ambassador to an Election Night party at his loft. So in 1967 the Rockefeller Family Fund was created Please enter your email address and we will send you an email with a reset password code. She was a member of Cell 16, a radical feminist organization, in the 1970s. This generation, known as the "cousins," also wanted to be philanthropists. In the course of several interviews for this story, she often defended him, saying that he didnt grow up with a lot of affection and that his inappropriate relationships with young women sprang less from malice than from his need for attention. In 1988 a G.O.P. George says his guns are a sportsmans hobby, but, Amy testified, there was a distinct change in the number of ammunition and guns that he had. I seemed to have uncontrollable tears. She called a friend in Lake Wales and asked her to drive her to a psychiatric facility in nearby Winter Park. Resend Activation Email, Please check the I'm not a robot checkbox, If you want to be a Photo Volunteer you must enter a ZIP Code or select your location on the map. Later they also went for a boat ride, along with several others, including Amy. Rockefeller heiress Abby O'Neill's 9,777sq-ft Long Island mansion 'Meriwether' goes on the market for $8.1 million four years after her death complete with 11 bedrooms, a ballroom-sized living. Jennifer was a friendly girl of 19 with long red hair. In Reno to obtain a divorce from David A. Milton of New York, is Mrs. Abby Rockefeller Milton, as she leaves the lobby of the riverside Hotel on her. God Bless!! In mid-1973, Whittleseys advertising business failed at the same time that his major stockholdings plummeted. In 1968, Babs created the Greenacre Foundation to maintain and operate parks in New York State for the benefit of the public. David Kessler's top 4 tips for dealing with holiday grief. But Amy kept assuring them that it wouldnt be for long. It was where Michelangelo sculpted, Amy says proudly. Thanks for using Find a Grave, if you have any feedback we would love to hear from you. Use Next and Previous buttons to navigate, or jump to a slide with the slide dots. Known as Meriwether, this grand 17-room estate on Long Island's North Shore was the longtime home of George O'Neill and his wife, Abby Rockefeller O'Neill, the eldest grandchild of John D.. Whittlesey, who had started life as the daughter of a railroad worker and graduated from the University of Pennsylvania Law School, thus became the most senior woman in the Reagan White House, and was often described as its last true conservative. The fact that George and Amy had recently espoused Catholicism would turn out to be the least of the Rockefeller familys concerns that day. From the age of 12, he had suffered from Crohns disease, an inflammation of the intestines and joints that required an operation to remove a large part of his intestines. Try again later. In early 1988, Whittlesey was finishing up her second term in Bern as ambassador to Switzerland. Faith never entirely got over the loss, and she never remarried. George, who slept with a loaded pistol by the bed and took great pride in being a National Rifle Association instructor, had always been into guns, says his wife. The sponsor of a memorial may add an additional. supporter David Barron, a close friend of Georges who hosted the dinner, to realize that George was not just being nice to Faiths daughter., Faith was vacationing in Antigua about a month later when a friend telephoned to inform her that George was romancing my daughter, she recalls. The furniture was produced . We send our deepest sympathy to the family. He would come down to inspect and fly into a rage if the dishwasher wasnt loaded a certain way. Of all the invitations Whittlesey received to witness George Bushs victory, she chose George ONeills. This experience led her to embrace Marxism, the politics of Fidel Castro and ultimately radical feminism.[1]. [2] Along with the other Cell 16 members, Rockefeller promoted self-defense for women and became skilled in karate in response to the frequent street harassment and sexual assaults women endured at the time. That changed, however, when Buchanan made an unexpectedly strong showing in the New Hampshire primary. George admitted in court that the spiral notebook on a chain was something he made for Amy so that she could keep track of her daily activities. The world will miss this shining light. She would blush at the mention of anything sexual. One Swiss friend remembers when Amy was kind of dating a dashing young student with a Porsche. Share this memorial using social media sites or email. Two months later, Amy discovered she was pregnant again and called George. In July 1998, Amy filed for divorce. She was a prominent member of the Rockefeller family through her marriage to financier and philanthropist John D. Rockefeller Jr., the son of Standard Oil co-founder John D. Rockefeller. Three months later Amy gave birth to a daughter, Catharine. It is an American industrial, banking, and political family that originally came from Germany. Amy and others say she also took naps in George and Amys bed. She went upstairs and locked the door to the bedroom suite. Mother was always working so hard, remembers Amy. Amy was eight months pregnant with Catharine and by all accounts very large. Sleepy Hollow, New York 10591, Phone: (914) 366-6300 I want to marry her. Then he sent flowers to Faith. Her first marriage took place on May 14, 1925, to David M. Milton (1900-1976), a lawyer and banker. He apparently left in a huff, complaining to friends that after he had totally reorganized the database other Buchanan operatives fucked it up. He also had ongoing scraps with Bay Buchanan, Pats bulldog sister and campaign manager. But by the end of her pregnancy with Georgie, she says she had started to notice things between Jennifer and her husband. Among the many positions she held were: membership of the Board of Trustees of the Rockefeller Brothers Fund, set up by her and her brothers in 1940; advisory member of the Board of Trustees of the Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, (a chief benefactor of the Center along with her brother, Laurance, she received its Medal of Appreciation in 1965); and honorary trustee of the Rockefeller Family Fund, founded by various family members in 1967. Abby and George O'Neill carried forward the Rockefeller legacy 'that has come to define the tradition of artistic collecting in the United States' Between 1998 and 2004 she served as chairman of Rockefeller Financial Services and Rockefeller & Company. The affair might have ended quite calmly, too, had one of the guests not wandered into the kitchen and, he says, found George junior, the 44-year-old father of the newly christened baby and the eldest of the fifth generation of Rockefellers, pressing a 19-year-old red-haired baby-sitter up against the refrigerator door. I wanted to do whatever it took to make him happy, she says. If you have questions, please contact [emailprotected]. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy and Cookie Statement and Your California Privacy Rights. In April 1996, Amy gave birth to Roger Whittlesey ONeill, the couples fourth child. No one can understand, says one family friend, why he doesnt just pay up now and get this over with. But George, according to others, refuses to lose, even if he has to humiliate his family. I told him it was a girl. Amy claims that, after the alleged oral-sex incident, George admitted that he and Terri had been involved for four years, but that it wasnt really adultery, because they never crossed the line. (In court, George denied having had any relations with Terri, but he admitted he gave her money to send her children to private school.) Most of the girls got between $3,500 and $5,000. In contrast to her brothers, who became public figures, she conducted her philanthropic activities quietly. She soon reverted to what the Lost Classics Girls call her zombielike state. And my answer is: Absolutely yes. Above are pictured Abby Rockefeller, granddaughter of the Standard Oil king, and David M. Milton young attorney. Include gps location with grave photos where possible. The Miltons were divorced in 1943. Though Georges parents have two grand homes in the compound, George and Amy moved into a large, dilapidated house on the lake, a short walk from the elder ONeills. Another baby-sitter testified that Jennifer Acreman would parade around in Georges boxer shorts. I said, I desperately need your help, would you please help me find a good doctor? Her husbands solution, Amy testified, was to take out the bottle of vodka and pour it and make me drink it and then try to have relations., In February 1995, a month after the christening, Amy says she went down to the kitchen at 10 oclock one night and found her husband and Jennifer Acreman in what I would call a sexual embrace. As Amy recalled for the judge, He had one hand inside of her pants and the other hand up inside of her shirt. She says she covered her face and ran upstairs. Sister of Marilyn Rockefeller (Milton) Simpson Wife of George Dorr O'Neill David M. Milton 1900 - 1976 [Milton grandfather? Accessibility Statement Lake Wales, Florida (FL), US. He wanted for me to engage in sexual activity with her. I was revolted. Life with George, she said, had become intolerable.. Its enough to turn me into a socialist, snaps Faith Whittlesey. Daughter Abby Rockefeller Mauze dies May 27 at age 72; her biog; por (M) . From a house on Manhattan's East 49th Street last week went news which joined Abby Rockefeller Milton; Gladys Vanderbilt, Countess Szechenyi; Anna Roosevelt Dall; Antoinette Heckscher. The six children of John D. Rockefeller Jr. had 24 children, ranging in age from Abby Rockefeller Milton's oldest daughter, Abby Rockefeller O'Neill (b. New revelations about how one Trump staffer helped preserve the transfer of powerfrom the forthcoming book on the Biden White House, The Idaho Murders, Part 1: How 4 College Kids Lived and Loved. ), It was so hard for George, she says, sipping her coffee. This browser does not support getting your location. If you notice a problem with the translation, please send a message to [emailprotected] and include a link to the page and details about the problem. Abby Rockefeller Milton Birth 27 Apr 1928 - New York, United States of America Death 4 April 1999 - Bergenfield, Bergen, New Jersey, United States Mother Abigail Rockefeller Father David Meriwether Milton Quick access Family tree 271 New search Abby Rockefeller Milton family tree Family tree Explore more family trees Parents David Meriwether Milton Abigail Greene Aldrich Rockefeller (October 26, 1874 - April 5, 1948) was an American socialite and philanthropist. Year should not be greater than current year. According to Amy, the Lost Classics Girls were instructed to throw out any catalogues that came for her in the mail, in order to keep her from spending money on frivolous things., Sometimes George took the girls to the shooting range he had built. Hed tell them about Italy and France and England and Africa. This would go on for hours. The last straw, she says, came one night at his parents house in Mountain Lake. She attended Brearley School and Miss Chapins School, both located in Manhattan. To their great disappointment, for two years Amy couldnt conceive (Hard to believe now, she says), and when she finally did, she miscarried. Ad Choices. This page was last edited on 10 December 2022, at 07:40. [1], She and her five brothers carried on the Rockefeller family tradition of philanthropy stemming back to their paternal grandparents, Standard Oil co-founder John Davison Rockefeller Sr. and schoolteacher Laura Celestia "Cettie" Spelman. At the front door was this full-size nude woman, which was a little overwhelming. (She would later testify that she wasnt a Lost Classics Girl but rather helped George with Buchanan affairs on the computer.) Drag images here or select from your computer for Abigail Rockefeller Abby Milton O'Neill memorial. She and George were invited to dinner at the home of a 90-year-old social maven who has known Georges family for years and who would die on the spot, according to one of her longtime employees, if her name were to be mentioned. All rights reserved. and how they violated peoples First Amendment rights and broke into homes and shot people and stuff., For several months, household employees say, Georges method of controlling Amys erratic behavior was to make her wear a notebook around her neck, even in public. She served as an honorary trustee of the Rockefeller Family Fund. Make sure that the file is a photo. George set up her computer database, which kept daily track of the delegates who were supportive of the pro-life cause. But Cremaldi didnt think it was his place, and besides, George ONeill Sr. had recently helped him in a Cambridge real-estate deal. She is survived by her husband of 67 years, George D. O'Neill of Oyster Bay, New York and their six children: George D. O'Neill, Jr. (Erica) of Lake Wales, FL; Abby O. Caulkins (Charles) of Chappaqua, NY; David M. O'Neill (Connie) of Greenwood Village, CO; Catharine O. Broderick (Kevin) of Grosse Pointe Farms, MI; Wendy H. O'Neill (David Rayner) of Sarasota, FL and Peter M. O'Neill (Katie) of New York, NY. Born in New York, Mrs. O'Neill was the daughter of David Meriwether Milton and Abby Rockefeller Mauze. Family background [ edit] She felt thoroughly exhausted. I just was overwhelmed with the number of burdens that were facing me. Around 1932, Deskey was called upon to renovate a series of rooms for John D. Rockefeller Jr.'s daughter, Abby Rockefeller Milton, within her triplex at One Beekman Place. Meanwhile, Amys mother-in-law, who as chairman of the Rockefeller philanthropies embraces such fashionably liberal causes as economic justice for women, is being accused by Amy and her mother of allowing the family to turn its back on a mother and five children. She organized countless family trips and gatherings, and was an avid gardener and golfer. A household employee claims that one day George took one of the Lost Classics Girls into the pantry, giggling and with his arms around her, and closed the door. This employee says she was aghast at the events that took placemostly under the tablethat night. Edit a memorial you manage or suggest changes to the memorial manager. She has a voice like Joan Baez, says her mother. Close this window, and upload the photo(s) again. Amy says that when she asked George what she could do to fix things between them, he would tell her that she had no control over her life and that she didnt appreciate him the way the girls did. This is so hard for me to talk about. In shorts and without makeup, her nails bitten raw, she is quite stunning, but she apologizes for the way she looks. You are only allowed to leave one flower per day for any given memorial. She and the children were then living in the $68 motel room in Lake Wales, where they stayed for five months, during which, Amy says, she repeatedly tried to contact George. I said that they wont do it., Amys friends were aghast that a young woman who had traveled the world, had grown up in an embassy, and spoke three languages was stuck in a retirement community in the middle of central Florida. She acts like this innocent mother, but you dont know. Remove advertising from a memorial by sponsoring it for just $5. For though she once resembled Diana in looks and height and in her virginal wedding to a man she considered a prince, darker similarities developed: humiliations, alleged infidelities, self-mutilation. Failed to remove flower. Faith says she worried that George was too old and too much of a ladies man for Amy. As she reaches for her coffee cup, her hands are trembling. (Abby ONeill declined requests to be interviewed. Mrs. O'Neill was a Champion for All. Theyd get there in the morning, fix something for themselves in the kitchen, then go up to the office. Amy testified that she walked in on them and saw Terri Nelson performing oral sex on my husband. Nelson, in her testimony, denied ever having had sex with George, but she admitted that they had spent the evening smoking pot in his parents living roomAmy included. But he says he couldnt forget what he had seenor Georges reaction when he walked in on him: He had a smirk on his face. Meanwhile, according to witnesses, George took charge of Amys medication, which comprised a cocktail of antidepressants. It matched Georges, and Amy sent her husband an invitation to the christening. A longtime resident of Oyster Bay, NY, Mrs. O'Neill was a Trustee of the Community Foundation of Oyster Bay which she and her husband George were instrumental in establishing and on whose Board they served as Trustee for over 50 years. I think they have brought him a lot of joy, and I am glad for that. So, wheres the 50 grand?) George testified that the first time he heard about the $50,000 was in court. After reading Cell 16's radical feminist publication, No More Fun and Games: A Journal of Female Liberation, Rockefeller decided to join the organization. Mother was trying to juggle both. The O'Neill family mourns the passing of their beloved Abby Milton O'Neill on May 3, 2017. Becoming a Find a Grave member is fast, easy and FREE. Nancy Palmer, the court-appointed lawyer for the children, whom George has fought unsuccessfully to have removed, wrote in a 34-page report submitted to the judge that George was an emotionally abusive husband, who disparages [Amys] mental health to most everyone, including his employees, most of whom are uneducated and seem mesmerized by the Rockefeller name. I suspect, wrote Palmer, these young women have boosted his self-esteem (which is sad). She concluded: I believe [his] primary focus in this case is to either gain control over [Amy] again or punish her for wanting a divorce.. For weeks she and her husband, unaware of Amys mothers ties to Reagan, were convinced they were spying for the Bush campaign. All photos uploaded successfully, click on the Done button to see the photos in the gallery. Because, to him, it was either youre at the very very top or youre a failure. -- Mrs. Abby Rockefeller Milton obtained a divorce today from David M. Milton, New York broker. Friends in Bern remember Amy as both incredibly worldly and incredibly nave. She was like from the 18th century, says Philibert Frick, an asset manager in Geneva and a member of the Swiss banking and vineyard family. The two annual outlaw meetings, like most family powwowsincluding the intergenerational meetings and the Christmas family lunchwere held at the Playhouse, the enormous Tudor-style manor in the middle of Pocantico that John D. Rockefeller Jr. had built for his sons, the generation known as the Brothers. The Playhouse has a bowling alley, swimming pools, squash courts, an ice-cream parlor, and a main room used for meetings.